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On Blahaj and 196 - Hexbear
hexbear.netDue to multiple factors, such as unaddressed ableist removals
[https://hexbear.net/pictrs/image/3df0e4c7-bb64-4c00-bbdb-5c753018895c.jpeg?format=webp]
from the /c/196 moderators, defense of chasers
[https://hexbear.net/pictrs/image/97e9abd7-e8be-499e-8db7-7a7d5d1e2762.webp],
no-quarter rules regarding our users
[https://hexbear.net/pictrs/image/8dc37487-d36b-4a55-9519-c3f8bb4fcae6.png],
leakage of good-faith DMs from our admin team [https://hexbear.net/post/361826],
and a general lack of initiative to punish these behaviors, we have come to the
conclusion that the 196 community on lemmy.blahaj.zone has made the fediverse an
unsafe space for our queer, disabled, neurodivergent, non-western, and other
marginalized comrades on this forum, and we will be defederating from
lemmy.blahaj.zone until we can be confident that this will not continue to be an
issue. We have attempted to make good-faith parley with both the instance admin
and the comm moderators, but we've reached a point which we feel that until
these behaviors are addressed by instance administration, we can no longer
continue to federate in good-faith while our users are being actively
invalidated by a small-but-vocal portion of the forum. Once we are confident
that these behaviors have ceased and are unlikely to continue, we are
more-than-happy to refederate in the name of queer solidarity. Thanks for
bearing with us :07:
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What chaser things have I defended?? I’m trans I don’t see how I could be a chaser and I don’t even know what I could do to earn the title. It seems like this post was never brought to our attention, because we check every report we receive and remove the ones that should be removed. What we don’t check, however, is every post as we do not have the mod numbers for that. We can only see what you guys bring to our attention through reports.
They’re referring to the screenshot of a post where you said a user’s comment about who they are attracted to was not transphobic and to stop reporting it.
IIRC, at the time it lead to the thread being removed due to other transphobic comments. When asked Ada clarified that the comment hexbear is complaining about as being a chaser was not the reason for this post:
https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/1246514
Yeah neither of us viewed the comment as a problem. There was a bunch of stuff surrounding it, and the user did end up getting some stuff removed, and I did end up having to delete the thread, but none of that was due to the original comment
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Oh yeah I remember this whole fiasco. The argument was literally just attraction to body types/features versus attraction to genders. This person was expressing that they’re only attracted to archetypaly “female” body features but are open to dating any one of any gender identity. The whole fight is basically just people thinking that they’re fetishizing trans men when they’re just expressing that well they’re fine with dating someone with a masculine identity, they don’t think it would work if the person wasn’t comfortable in a feminine body. I don’t really want to get into this again, but there’s nothing wrong with that in it of itself.
Some folks refuse to believe there are different levels of dysphoria. Like so many things, it’s a spectrum.
Seriously! I’m transfem, have been for years, 2 years on hormones, but I have no problem with my voice. Let it be masculine! Who the fuck cares. It doesn’t matter! Lot of trans people feel similar ways about different things
Due to hormone issues, I was basically presented with a choice to transition if I wanted. It was a serious consideration that I had to make. Took over a year to decide. I wished I was fem (still kinda do) but I couldn’t part with my lil buddy. Femboys weren’t really a thing back then, so yeah. Not every GQ person needs to want to undergo GRS to “qualify” as trans. Gatekeepy bullshit.
REAL. thank you for sharing your story!
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It helps that there was an entire instance trawling our posts, looking for any controversy to amplify into the short story du jour.
I’m all for talking about these things and figuring out what norms we want to uphold in our spaces. I’m not in favor of waves hands whatever this has turned out to be.