So I’ve been struggling for months to find a name that clicks with me. I keep stumbling on names which feel like the one, then a few minutes to a few days later the name loses its sway on me. I feel like I just have to finally pick something so I can move on with my life, but I’m really not having much success. I keep telling myself that I can change it again later if I end up hating the one I pick, but it’s hard enough to get people to change how they address me once. It’s weird because I’m very infrequently this indecisive, but this choice has me really circling the drainpipe. Idk how to find one that speaks to me which I don’t feel like I’ll regret. I’m really feeling for my parents having to name me in the first place now—this shit hard lol

Did anyone else have this experience? How did your name come to you? Does anyone have any advice for me?

  • valpackett
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    1 year ago

    Oh, um, yes. I’ve had probably the most extreme version of that experience :D

    I knew I wasn’t exactly cis when I was 14 or so (really don’t remember the exact moment lmao). I finally picked a name… soon after turning 26 (!) just before starting to be transfem IRL.