So I’ve been struggling for months to find a name that clicks with me. I keep stumbling on names which feel like the one, then a few minutes to a few days later the name loses its sway on me. I feel like I just have to finally pick something so I can move on with my life, but I’m really not having much success. I keep telling myself that I can change it again later if I end up hating the one I pick, but it’s hard enough to get people to change how they address me once. It’s weird because I’m very infrequently this indecisive, but this choice has me really circling the drainpipe. Idk how to find one that speaks to me which I don’t feel like I’ll regret. I’m really feeling for my parents having to name me in the first place now—this shit hard lol

Did anyone else have this experience? How did your name come to you? Does anyone have any advice for me?

  • Miku Luna \ she/it
    14•11 months ago

    I googled something along the lines of “top transfem names”, clicked on the first link I saw, and picked the first one I saw. Have this name for a few months now and I’ve been pretty happy with it. It’s not the perfect name for me, but it’s pretty close and I gave the search only like 5 minutes.

    One thing I heard can work is just making one up. Throw together two or three syllables and see if you like it. If you like it, congratulations, you just found a name, if you don’t, try again.

    Also don’t expect a lot of euphoria from just choosing your name. For me at least, being referred to by it was much more euphoric than choosing it.