For me Its quite simple. My brain decided it. Literally. The days I found out I’m trans, my brain would do this weird thing, where I could think about completely different stuff and suddenly my now chosen name would “fly” into my mental Field of View, like an asteroid in star wars or so. I told that name a close friend and 4 weeks later when we went to the club together I told him, that I will stick with it, because I didnt had a better idea (and it was the only name I really felt comfortable with).
I wish I could come up with another name. For some reason, it just feels weird and almost wrong to name myself. That isn’t judgement against people who have chosen their own names, it’s my own awful hangups and I wish I had the confidence to pick something for myself and own it. So I guess I need a group of friends that know me and can help me pick one.
My real name is gendered af. And even before this awakening, I disliked it because everywhere I go, there’ll always be other people with the same name as me. It’s like my parents’ generation just had no fucking imagination or originality. And it’s people being named basic shit that leads to all of the Tragedeighs in the next generation as over compensation.
I just haven’t found a name I’d like to use, but my irl name is at least 98% male. Part of the problem is my name was chosen to be really similar to my non-birth-mom’s name and I like that. At least there are some spellings that are used by females, even if those are uncommon, but the pronunciation doesn’t change at all and I’ve used such as a in-game name before egg cracked. My name is relatively common from my generation. Not super-common, but also I was in a classroom once with like 5 students and three of us shared the name. Been over three years tho and still not even an inkling of an idea for alternatives.
I know this struggle! I feel odd naming myself, but those close to me also refuse to offer a suggestion. They all say “that’s too personal a thing for me to choose in your place” or “I’m already bad at naming things so, no”. I suppose that I will have to hear it for the rest of my life, so I might as well like it!
I saw someone else here mention that they came up with a short list of names, then got friends to rate them or vote on them and narrow it down from there. Might be an idea. Thinking about it, you can’t really blame people for not wanting to make that decision for someone else. Although it would make it easier lol.