Household chores overwhelming you? Big picture problems? Anxious about parenting? April ie stress awareness month so tell us below!

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  • Vibi
    8·
    3 天前

    Friendship…I so struggle balancing my feelings of loneliness and desire for companionship. I look to my friends for support, but don’t want to be a burden or overwhelm them. I constantly think about how I can be the best friend I can for them and how I can support them while also being present for myself. I always end up neglecting my feelings, burning out, and sometimes even losing a friend as I crumble under my emotions. People are so hard sometimes 😢

    • Lady Butterfly @lazysoci.alOPMEnglish
      5·
      3 天前

      People really are hard, they can say one thing and mean another. Loneliness is overwhelming, but our feelings about other peoples needs can take over sometimes. It’s hard when we feel like a burden. Do you know where that burden feeling comes from?

      • Vibi
        3·
        3 天前

        Most likely trauma and previous friendships eroding. I’m on the spectrum and know that the world I experience is very different from most people. How I communicate, express myself, and just feel overall tends to come off as exaggerated… but for me, it’s what feels normal and is fully authentic. I reach out, communicate that I’m hurting, and could use support, but it’s almost always “I’ll try to make time.” I always ask to spend time doing things we do regularly - playing games online, chatting, shopping etc… but the moment I’m asking for that time to help me through something, it’s just not there anymore. I’ve lost a few friendships that I really valued when I was struggling like this - it’s hard to not feel like it’s a ‘me’ problem.

        • Lady Butterfly @lazysoci.alOPMEnglish
          2·
          3 天前

          I get that, part of being neurodiverse is being a bit different. It’s a fantastic asset because it means we bring things to the table other people don’t but boy, it can make us an outsider! You’re not fake, you’re your own authentic self, but it’s hard to get people to see that. When we lose people and we’re the common demoninator it’s natural to see ourselves as the problem. I get it mate.