As the title says, do you have any tips and tricks that you think are good for dealing with sudden outbursts of Dysphoria, so you dont feel like shit until you fall asleep (at least that’s when the Dysphoria ends for me usually).
As the title says, do you have any tips and tricks that you think are good for dealing with sudden outbursts of Dysphoria, so you dont feel like shit until you fall asleep (at least that’s when the Dysphoria ends for me usually).
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Thank you for your compliments ❤️
And I think “go out there and become yourself” is a good summary, though I remember being very early in transition and feeling entirely clueless about what it meant to “be myself” - this phrase and language came up a lot, esp. from supportive cis allies. Everyone thought it was so great I was “being myself”, but I never felt my transition was ever about being myself, really (or what that meant, even).
After decades of repression I was so dissociated and disconnected from myself, my desires, etc. Eventually I realized on a cognitive level that when I did things to facilitate feeling like a woman, I seemed to feel good or at least less bad (and feeling masculine made me feel worse). From there I eventually came around to “go out there and be a woman” - and that ended up working for me pretty well. I don’t know who I am, but I know being a woman in the world consistently makes me feel good.
All this to say, sometimes the trans experience can be fractured and difficult to piece together or interpret, and I try to be sensitive to that, since it is my own experience as a trans person. This makes it hard to summarize or communicate effectively for every kind of trans experience out there.
Some people have a good sense of self, some don’t.
I agree with you.
I don’t mean to hurt anyone with me shortening my words, I’ve been getting lost in my desire to write more and liked how I wrote it.
I’ve been on my own rough journey, I was lost in my armor well up til I hit 30’s, I remember the moment I saw my self for the first time and everything started making better sense. Going out there and becoming myself was just that. I had to go out of my comfort zone, challenge my fears and make that next step to figuring myself out and becoming me. My life didn’t start when I got married, when we had our first kid. It started when I came out to myself. All those were just layers of connection on top of my self. I didn’t know my self, so I just used my 「Autistic High Masking Magic」 to make a shell and navigate the world with no self guided direction.
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