• Lumelore (She/her)
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    1 day ago

    Secular isn’t a religion. It just means they are neutral towards it, which honestly, every therapist should be that way. It’s also a good thing to have a therapist that supports your identity. I have a lot of religious trauma related to me being queer and I would be very upset if I went to a therapist and they tried to convert me back to christianity and denied my queer identity. People do have problems where knowing their therapists beliefs would make them feel a lot safer and I don’t think that would actually impede progress.

    • grysbok@lemmy.sdf.org
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      20 hours ago

      Plus, sometimes you don’t want to teach your therapist about stuff. Like, hypothetically my current therapist would know what an ace polyamorous furry kinkster is; I wouldn’t need to define any of those terms. This makes it much easier to talk about my friends and relationships without getting sidetracked.

      Oh, and I’ve fired a physician that tried too hard to get me to talk to my mom, even after I pushed back. New physician was very understanding. I think queer folk are more likely to understand that relatives aren’t always family.

      • femtech@midwest.social
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        20 hours ago

        Yeah, even my old one who was listed as being queer friendly I had to educate on trans issues and not saying things like “full women”

        • grysbok@lemmy.sdf.org
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          19 hours ago

          Oof.

          I guess they were friendly in the same way a boisterous German shepherd puppy is friendly: means well, but not a good playmate for my tiny arthritic senior dog.

          (He’s snoring in my clean laundry and it’s adorable.)