There’s also a bunch of us who at one point identified as bi before realizing we were actually ace. I’ve talked to a fair few people with similar experiences.
In my case I went from being a homophobic straight guy because I mistook being uncomfortable with being directly desired for sex with disliking gay guys because “of course I like women… I’m just old fashioned and need to find The One™ first.” To realizing that I must be bi because I don’t actually feel any different about men than I do about women. To realizing that I’m ace because of course I don’t feel any different 0=0 after all.
Hell, I probably wouldn’t have ever figured out the ace part without my partner. She’s the one that taught me it was a thing when we first started dating along with helping me figure out I’m nonbinary.
There’s also a bunch of us who at one point identified as bi before realizing we were actually ace. I’ve talked to a fair few people with similar experiences.
In my case I went from being a homophobic straight guy because I mistook being uncomfortable with being directly desired for sex with disliking gay guys because “of course I like women… I’m just old fashioned and need to find The One™ first.” To realizing that I must be bi because I don’t actually feel any different about men than I do about women. To realizing that I’m ace because of course I don’t feel any different 0=0 after all.
Hell, I probably wouldn’t have ever figured out the ace part without my partner. She’s the one that taught me it was a thing when we first started dating along with helping me figure out I’m nonbinary.