content warning, I’m going to be glib and talk about misogyny and transphobia in a joking manner - I don’t mean to harm anyone, and I don’t want to upset anyone.
OK hear me out: trans-exclusionary radical feminists, at least the actual radfems who are often middle-aged and still stuck in second-wave feminism, should love gender-affirming care … doesn’t it do exactly what they would love to do to men? Like, a lot of these women are cultural feminists, they essentialise men and women and view women as superior and men as inherently violent, oppressive, and bad. At least that’s been my experience.
So, for example, if a man wants to suppress testosterone and take estrogen, shouldn’t TERFs’ fear about violence from men and the (admittedly simplistic) narrative that testosterone is responsible for that violence and aggression motivate them to embrace enabling as many men as possible to suppress their testosterone and chemically castrate themselves with estrogen?
Even if they don’t believe that makes the man a woman, shouldn’t they believe it’s an improvement?
It just sounds like a revenge fever-dream concocted by second-wave lesbian separatist: a woman goes about secretly injecting abusive men with estrogen to calm them down … it just sounds like a revenge fantasy they would be into.
The plot of The Gate to Women’s Country literally centers around this fantasy of castrating men to make “good” men.
And if that’s not compelling, I know they love the stories about chopping off dicks - come on, if they really believe trans women are a bunch of men, shouldn’t they support access to gender-affirming care like vaginoplasties that do exactly that?
TERFs should support gender-affirming care even if they don’t believe trans women are women. If men are the enemy they should be the biggest fans of chemically castrating and cutting the dicks off men.
Thanks for coming to my TED talk.
Sorry, I mistook what you had said as saying that you don’t accept non-binary/third gender people’s identities. I’m glad that you respect them as well.
I can definitely understand how gender liberation can be confusing from a cisgender perspective. Not everyone is actually willing to listen to us when we try to explain our experiences to them. It’s a minority of a minority who will hear us out and engage in constructive conversation with us. Our entire community is subject to a lot of violence on a regular basis. We are very protective and insular out of necessity for that. Hate is presumed because, in the vast majority of cases, it is also there. In this case, it wasn’t.
I have watched the trans hate as the canary in the coal.mine but also just as weirdness. When i was a kid trans was a medical curiosity, not a moral outrage and to see the change is eminent proof of societal madness. However i feel about femaleness or transness or my own very personal confusion I will never forget that trans people are people and their rights must be protected. The protective instinct is 100%, justified. I hope that whatever our differences you can at least know that i will stand for trans rights.