tbh i feel almost exactly the same way (though i’m probably not enby).
she/her feels dangerous, because if i act or am treated as femme then the transphobes in my life might start to suspect me. they/them just feels totally wrong, it’s not who i am. he/him at least feels safe, because it won’t raise any suspicions…
AND just like you, gender is probably gonna be the least painful part of the next decade for me lol
tbh i feel almost exactly the same way (though i’m probably not enby).
she/her feels dangerous, because if i act or am treated as femme then the transphobes in my life might start to suspect me. they/them just feels totally wrong, it’s not who i am. he/him at least feels safe, because it won’t raise any suspicions…
AND just like you, gender is probably gonna be the least painful part of the next decade for me lol