I agree with, the post op on this, because look. If a person identifying as one gender is cross dressing to look a certain way, they are not trans just from that because at the end of the day it is just cloths. Also where you say, “You don’t think about how you respond to people’s missteps” you seem to be broadly talking more than just simply cross dressing, but since you didn’t say anything specific I won’t judge you, but that is suspicious.