See, this is something I think I might be too autistic to understand.
I’m supposed to welcome people to niche communities, which I assume includes helping people with their problems, or else I’m being exclusive and elitist. But also sometimes people post about their problems without actually wanting help, and if you try to help them you’re being annoying. So, don’t help anyone unless they explicitly ask for help, even though in 99% of other situations someone implicitly asking for help means they want your help and its extremely rude to ignore them. I sure hope nobody having their problems ignored takes that as rude or elitist or exclusive.
If you’re annoyed that people keep complaining, express that you are annoyed instead of trying to point to what you think is the solution. You might be wrong about problem or even the solution, but you won’t be wrong about your emotions.
The emotion I get as an autistic person trying to trying to interpret people saying the opposite of what they mean then being considered an asshole when I’m neurologically incapable of interpreting coded messages is that I want to kill someone and then myself.
I get that. I’ve always found it hard to not just tell people what to do, especially when I known I’m right. What helps me is framing things in terms of my own experiences. I don’t know other people’s circumstances, but I do know my own. Outlining why something works for me helps them understand better than any advice I can give.
See, this is something I think I might be too autistic to understand.
I’m supposed to welcome people to niche communities, which I assume includes helping people with their problems, or else I’m being exclusive and elitist. But also sometimes people post about their problems without actually wanting help, and if you try to help them you’re being annoying. So, don’t help anyone unless they explicitly ask for help, even though in 99% of other situations someone implicitly asking for help means they want your help and its extremely rude to ignore them. I sure hope nobody having their problems ignored takes that as rude or elitist or exclusive.
The emotion I get as an autistic person trying to trying to interpret people saying the opposite of what they mean then being considered an asshole when I’m neurologically incapable of interpreting coded messages is that I want to kill someone and then myself.
I get that. I’ve always found it hard to not just tell people what to do, especially when I known I’m right. What helps me is framing things in terms of my own experiences. I don’t know other people’s circumstances, but I do know my own. Outlining why something works for me helps them understand better than any advice I can give.