Edit - This is a post to the meta group of Blåhaj Lemmy. It is not intended for the entire lemmyverse. If you are not on Blåhaj Lemmy and plan on dropping in to offer your opinion on how we are doing things in a way you don’t agree with, your post will be removed.

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A user on our instance reported a post on lemmynsfw as CSAM. Upon seeing the post, I looked at the community it was part of, and immediately purged all traces of that community from our instance.

I approached the admins of lemmynsfw and they assured me that the models with content in the community were all verified as being over 18. The fact that the community is explicitly focused on making the models appear as if they’re not 18 was fine with them. The fact that both myself and one a member of this instance assumed it was CSAM, was fine with them. I was in fact told that I was body shaming.

I’m sorry for the lack of warning, but a community skirting the line trying to look like CSAM isn’t a line I’m willing to walk. I have defederated lemmynsfw and won’t be reinstating it whilst that community is active.

  • AdaOPMA
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    1011 months ago

    Their sidebar rules actively allowed “childlike” content before this occurred.

      • AdaOPMA
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        411 months ago

        Well you know, except for the one that started this whole thing, and the first couple I saw when I had a closer look at the community…

        • DMmeYourNudes
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          1011 months ago

          That does not seem to be the prevailing opinion from people who have actually seen the content.

          • AdaOPMA
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            311 months ago

            People who use a community looking for “child like” content from their models probably aren’t the unbiased sample group you think they are

            • @CaptainEffort@lemmy.world
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              I’m a little confused. Above, a comment went really into detail as to why they believe this was just a misunderstanding. One thing they mentioned was this:

              The mod of the community copy/pasted the dictionary definition from vocabulary.com, which contains the word “childlike”.

              Now… you actually replied to the comment that I’m quoting from. So you saw that the only reason that “childlike” was included was because it was copy/pasted - not because of anything malicious. So, did you not actually read their whole comment? Or did you read it and decide to continue with this talking point despite knowing it’s flawed?

              • AdaOPMA
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                611 months ago

                I looked at something that looked like CSAM. I looked at the community, and saw more content that was sitting right on the border of CSAM. The sidebar told me childlike content was allowable.

                There was no misunderstanding. My exposure to the content in that community was content that appeared to my eyes to be CSAM.

                Telling me that if I looked hard enough I would see that they’re all adults, or that “childlike” was only there because of a copy and paste doesn’t fundamentally alter that. I don’t care that they’re all adults. I care that many of them are framed to look like they’re not.

                This is not a misunderstanding. This isn’t ignorance. This isn’t confusion.

                This is a difference in expectations and understanding of acceptable content.

                • @CaptainEffort@lemmy.world
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                  I’m saying that right now you know that the term “childlike” was only there due to a copy/paste issue, not because of anything malicious going on. And I know you know this as you responded to a comment explicitly pointing it out. In spite of this you’ve continued to parrot the same talking points regarding “childlike” appearing in the sidebar.

                  And again, I can’t tell if this is due to you not actually fully reading the comment, or if it’s that the truth is simply less convenient and you’d rather continue using the same talking points despite knowing they’re inaccurate.

                  This has nothing to do with your initial impressions and has everything to do with what you’re doing right now, in this very thread. Your reply somehow has virtually nothing to do with what I called you out on, as nowhere did I criticize or doubt your initial reaction or overall decision. I’m solely criticizing your continued use of the “childlike” term talking point, despite knowing the truth around why it was there.

                  • AdaOPMA
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                    Your reply somehow has virtually nothing to do with what I called you out on, as nowhere did I criticize or doubt your initial reaction or overall decision

                    You’re still under the misapprehension that I didn’t read, or didn’t understand.

                    A community that actively fosters content that looks like it is being generated by underage teenagers is a problem.

                    The wording of the sidebar was part of it. The reported image was part of it. The images I saw when I looked closer at the community were part of it.

                    It looked like CSAM to me. The admins of the instance in question are ok with it.

                    And that’s an irreconcilable difference.

                    The fact that it’s not CSAM, and only looks like it, doesn’t change that

            • DMmeYourNudes
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              511 months ago

              their most popular content is not child like, they changed their rules, and somehow you don’t see that you too are biased. and again, no one in this thread has seen the post that you started this over.

              • AdaOPMA
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                611 months ago

                Of course I’m biased. I haven’t tried to hide that. I’m not approaching this from a dispassionate, disconnected perspective and have no desire to pretend I am. I had a strong emotional response to something that looked like CSAM. I saw more content that looked like CSAM. I saw a sidebar that actively encourages childlike content. I got told by the admins of the community that it was fine with them.

                So I defederated, and it doesn’t impact you at all, as you’re not on either instance.

                And I would do so again. And your snarky replies aren’t going to change that.

                • DMmeYourNudes
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                  511 months ago

                  The constant defederation of various instances for biased reasons does affect everyone who uses lemmy. Instances lead by emotions will degrade this entire system leading to it’s downfall. beehaw stopped growing when they defederate from other major instances, and it will happen here too.

                  • AdaOPMA
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                    411 months ago

                    My goal isn’t “grow the community as big as possible”

                    My goal is to create a safe community space for queer and gender diverse folk. That goal is more important to me than the idea of “federate with everyone”

        • ghostinthessh
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          This is mostly unrelated to defederating from lemmynsfw.com . However is is possible for next time to take screenshots or archives of the other instance’s rules and relavant policy decisions by admins? I understand not wanting to screenshot the content, and I trust your judgement on things. But it seems like rules/policies get changed after you observe and act on them (disingenuous or otherwise), so having a recording to show what you observed would be helpful. Even to people outside blahaj as we may care about those changes, and want to observe a pattern.

          Otherwise, thanks for running an instance, and taking some time to actually care about and moderate the content.