• Aurenkin@sh.itjust.works
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    Hope you’re doing better. Also agree it’s not as easy as just “get help”, even some places with public healthcare don’t include mental health which is pretty messed up.

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      I’m doing good. I feel like I’m thriving but I’m still pretty lonely and don’t often socialize.

      I’ve heard pretty bad things about therapy they have poor outcome percentages. Very few people actually get better after a year of therapy. A year of therapy can be tens of thousands of dollars.

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        I’ve been in therapy since i was a teenager (am 36 now). I can say, with a lot of determination, shit can get better with therapy. I was always trying to kill myself 20 years ago. now I haven’t been to hospital in like 2 years.

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          How can you afford 20 years of therapy? I feel like that’s a crippling amount of money.

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              Nice. It would have to be free, I would never want to pay for it at the rates that are charged.

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                yup. it’s pretty bullshit that mental health isn’t free, yet a lot of other medical stuff is (at least where i live)

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              Your americanism is showing :)

              as the other commenter said, that’s a somewhat uniquely american thing. I just visit the doctor when something is wrong with me. If there’s nothing wrong, there’s no need to go to the doctor.

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                Actually European here, but there are way to may diseases that can sneek up on you for you not to go everytime+whenever you feel like it

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        If you have good insurance it’s no nearly that much. Weekly, with good insurance, you’re looking at ~$20-30. Without insurance, with a payment plan for low income individuals, you can find discounted care around $60-70/session fairly easily. They didn’t check my income when I was offered that, just in response to me mentioning I might need to quit when my insurance was shit for a year or two.

        The Secular Therapy Project may be worth looking at. It focuses on specifically finding non-theist care providers, but as I understand it, you’ll be less likely to find non-evidence based providers, so somewhat better outcomes.

        Ultimately, therapy is a space for you to work through your own issues with the help of a trained professional who can guide you, but imprecisely. They’ll offer tools, and it’s up to you to figure out how to use them in a way that suits you. The tools can work, but only so much as you are willing to learn to apply them for your own benefit. Some will suit you better than others. It’s hard to have that much patience to continue trying new approaches, introspecting, and growing two steps forward and one step back, but it’s worth it. Ultimately, as cliche as this probably sounds, every day you’re putting in that effort, trying to see the good, reaching towards contentedness and your dreams, is a small victory. It’s a step in the right direction.

        *these prices are for US healthcare prividers. It may be different elsewhere.