That I’m a man and that must mean I want solutions to my problems instead of my feelings being validated.
The amount of time I spend trying to get people to simply validate my feelings is maddening.
I’ve heard it said “women don’t want solutions, they want their feelings validated.” Such a stupid unnecessarily gendered thing. Everyone wants their feelings validated.
But no, everyone proffers solutions or excuses as to why I shouldn’t feel that way. Makes me feel like I’m going crazy.
Yes, I have. Endlessly. It always results in anything but actually validating my feelings. I know I’m not out of line because two separate therapists have confirmed I’m really not asking for much and if I’m taking the time to politely communicate it (especially over and over), it’s the other party who has an issue.
Aww I’m sorry to hear. I hope the best for you, internet stranger. Your feelings matter. I know what it feels like when it seems like they don’t. Hope the rest of your weekend goes ok.
That I’m a man and that must mean I want solutions to my problems instead of my feelings being validated.
The amount of time I spend trying to get people to simply validate my feelings is maddening.
I’ve heard it said “women don’t want solutions, they want their feelings validated.” Such a stupid unnecessarily gendered thing. Everyone wants their feelings validated.
But no, everyone proffers solutions or excuses as to why I shouldn’t feel that way. Makes me feel like I’m going crazy.
Have you tried talking to them about that?
Yes, I have. Endlessly. It always results in anything but actually validating my feelings. I know I’m not out of line because two separate therapists have confirmed I’m really not asking for much and if I’m taking the time to politely communicate it (especially over and over), it’s the other party who has an issue.
I was trying to rankle you :(
You didn’t. 😀 No worries
Guess I’ll have to try harder next time.
I love that you unironically offered a solution.
I did it ironically, but even more ironically, OP didn’t take it ironically.
Aww I’m sorry to hear. I hope the best for you, internet stranger. Your feelings matter. I know what it feels like when it seems like they don’t. Hope the rest of your weekend goes ok.
Can you give an example?
I’d really rather not go into my personal shit between me and my family on the internet, thanks.