She acknowledged that I did talk to her about it beforehand, but hasn’t been able to properly process it yet.

We’re OK, I’m just venting.

  • OldEggNewTricksOP
    8·
    8 days ago

    I thought mine was too (and genuinely appears to be trying!) but then she sometimes comes out with comments like this. My poor brain can’t handle “I’m mad about X, but I’m going to complain about Y instead which hasn’t been a problem up to now”. I have enough trouble reading emotions as it is: please just tell me what you’re upset about!

    • dandelion
      7·
      8 days ago

      Sounds like she might be having trouble accepting you? I’ve heard about this with religious spouses, and with heterosexuals whose sexuality just won’t support the new relationship. Either way, that is a really tough situation and I’m so sorry 🫂

      • OldEggNewTricksOP
        7·
        8 days ago

        Yes, I think so. She’s not religious, but has difficulty talking openly about her feelings (this is something we’ve dealt with many many times before). It seems she wants to get used to the new state of things, and seems to be trying, but rather than just coming out and saying “hold on, I’m freaking out a bit about this” or whatever, tends to pick on specific things I’m doing at the time instead of the root cause.

        • dandelion
          2·
          7 days ago

          That is hard, when the person refuses to be transparent about their feelings to protect their spouse, but … it doesn’t solve the problem and the repression leads to instability. I’m so sorry. Hopefully you have a good couple’s therapist to help. Relationships are hard, even without the stress of transition. 🫂 🫂 🫂