i honestly think mine was sometime in 8th grade when i realized that i didn’t just admire this guy, i wanted to go out with him.

i got jealous when he jokingly flirted with guys, but at the same time hoped that he was hinting that he was queer and not just joking around.

  • CattypatEnglish
    2·
    9 hours ago

    Around the start of middle school or a little earlier I saw a counselor at one of my summer camps and just looked at his eyes. I was incredibly confused and intimidated by the feeling of attraction and questioned why the hell I was feeling this unique emotion towards men. At the time I understood myself to be a guy (definitely not anymore lol but I’m not willing to do the argument over how “gender” is created) and it took me a WHILE to figure out… fuck… that was attraction. Does anyone else feel that theyre attracted to one gender in a very different way from another? That was a source of tension for me when I was figuring out my sexuality.

    • AdaAEnglish
      5·
      9 hours ago

      In some definitions, the distinction between pansexuality and bisexuality is how that attraction is felt.

      Through this lens, for pansexual folk, gender doesn’t come in to the feeling of attraction. Attraction is attraction irrelevant of gender.

      Bisexuality under this same definition is attraction to more than one gender, where gender plays a part in how the attraction is experienced

      • ricoOPEnglish
        2·
        8 hours ago

        i tend to feel more warmth in my face with a man and greatly admire him but more warmth in my heart with a woman and want to impress her, be close with her, etc, i think bisexual would be correct?

        this was helpful btw!