• 1st panel : spongebob in a stand caption reads “Single trans woman”
  • 2nd panel : a huge crowd gathered around spongebob
  • 3rd panel : spongebob adds a little paper on his table saying “I don’t use my penis”
  • 4th panel : the whole crowd left.
  • Chloë (she/her)OP
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    3 days ago

    At some point I think it’s just better not to tell people you’re trans , like If you have a neovagina and pass there is literally no visible difference.

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      2 days ago

      Not if you’re actually looking for a happy partnership. It’s one thing if it actually doesn’t come up, but if you’re hiding it from a partner, well, you’re hiding an aspect of your life from your partner.

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      3 days ago

      I have no desire to blend in to cishet society. I spent too long hiding in a closet to just get in to a new one, even if it is more comfortable than the old one

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        2 days ago

        You make a good point 👍🏻 I was moreso arguing for not disclosing you’re trans in situations it might be difficult. I whole heartedly agree with you otherwise<3

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      Bottom surgery leaves a fair few scars, and neovagina’s don’t always function in the same way. This might work for trans women that are straight, but I doubt it would work for those that are sapphic. Someone’s going to notice if they’re eating you out (please enjoy my dumb joke about men not giving head).

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        I had bottom surgery 7 years ago, and my scars are pretty much invisible these days.

        That being said, I still don’t think people would mistake it for a cis vagina in the long term

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        I’ve heard that even a gynecologist could be “fooled”, there is a lot of info about neovaginas out there I’m not sure what is true and what isn’t :/ (Joke enjoyed c: )

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      That sounds rather dangerous. There seems to be a not-insignificant number of people who would get irrationally angry at being tricked into having “gay sex” and thus being turned gay, and the only way they know to ungay themselves is through violence.

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      But an audible one 💀 though the perception by others varies for me