I kinda wonder sometimes how many cis people actually are cis and just haven’t had a reason to confront it. Like, I thought I was for a long time so it’s not unreasonable to me that there are probably a lot more trans people than any of us think, they just don’t ever discover it 🤔
I largely agree with you, however i think the more accurate thing is that no one is truly cis, no one is truly any label. We just have a tendency to force everything in the world into discrete categories, which is very annoying.
Even “biological sex” is a mess and not binary at all, so i see no real reason for the concepts of gender and sexuality to exist. All it does is limit people from being able to explore themselves and their preferences.
A comparison can be made to how no one cares what your diet is unless they’re going to serve you food, why should anyone but those near a person care how they identify? Why should we have categories for sexual attraction anywhere other than on pornhub?
I can see where you’re coming from and I kind of agree, from my perspective - and perhaps many other people’s perspectives - being able to attach a label to myself after some exploration and introspection really helped me get things straight in my head. I felt much better about myself along the way when I was able to say “I’m asexual”, then again when I was able to say “oh shit I’m agender too”. I struggled more with “oh shit I’m transfem too” but that’s partly because of all of the everything going on in the world lately and also because now I’m aware of dysphoria in a way I wasn’t before I put a label on it. Overall, mixed result 🤷♀️
I think what we should be aiming at is not clinging rigidly to labels - it should be treated as OK and normal for people to think about their labels and if they still really feel like those labels fit at every point in the process. We treat it as relatively normal for someone to go “I think I’m straight?”, “oh no wait, I think I’m bi?”, “oh wait no, I think I’m gay”, for example, but then we treat that final stage as the final stage, like now you’re gay and it’s set in stone.
There are probably many people who live a cis life who would live a different life if they were completely free in choosing their gender and expression. There’s many barriers currently that prevent people from realising and/or accepting the fact that they’re trans.
A good starting point would be normalising questioning it and exploring it, and making it OK at the end to conclude that you are trans or you are cis, but that feels like a long way off
I kinda wonder sometimes how many cis people actually are cis and just haven’t had a reason to confront it. Like, I thought I was for a long time so it’s not unreasonable to me that there are probably a lot more trans people than any of us think, they just don’t ever discover it 🤔
I largely agree with you, however i think the more accurate thing is that no one is truly cis, no one is truly any label. We just have a tendency to force everything in the world into discrete categories, which is very annoying.
Even “biological sex” is a mess and not binary at all, so i see no real reason for the concepts of gender and sexuality to exist. All it does is limit people from being able to explore themselves and their preferences.
A comparison can be made to how no one cares what your diet is unless they’re going to serve you food, why should anyone but those near a person care how they identify? Why should we have categories for sexual attraction anywhere other than on pornhub?
I can see where you’re coming from and I kind of agree, from my perspective - and perhaps many other people’s perspectives - being able to attach a label to myself after some exploration and introspection really helped me get things straight in my head. I felt much better about myself along the way when I was able to say “I’m asexual”, then again when I was able to say “oh shit I’m agender too”. I struggled more with “oh shit I’m transfem too” but that’s partly because of all of the everything going on in the world lately and also because now I’m aware of dysphoria in a way I wasn’t before I put a label on it. Overall, mixed result 🤷♀️
I think what we should be aiming at is not clinging rigidly to labels - it should be treated as OK and normal for people to think about their labels and if they still really feel like those labels fit at every point in the process. We treat it as relatively normal for someone to go “I think I’m straight?”, “oh no wait, I think I’m bi?”, “oh wait no, I think I’m gay”, for example, but then we treat that final stage as the final stage, like now you’re gay and it’s set in stone.
There are probably many people who live a cis life who would live a different life if they were completely free in choosing their gender and expression. There’s many barriers currently that prevent people from realising and/or accepting the fact that they’re trans.
A good starting point would be normalising questioning it and exploring it, and making it OK at the end to conclude that you are trans or you are cis, but that feels like a long way off