The thing I learned about China when I was on Twitter years ago is that it’s how visible you are about it. There’s a code of conduct that lets you say and do the thing even if you should get in real trouble for it. I followed a Chinese lesbian who was big in the 3d printing world, and she talked about how there’s lesbian bars and her girlfriend, but she’s married to a man in the same way that they used to do here in western countries. They call them a Face, and they’re guys who are either gay or have some other arrangement with a lesbian so they can both satisfy the cultural/legal marriage expectations while living their own lives.

Not to say that it’s all sunshine and rainbows over there. It’s still pretty dystopian. She also talked about how she had been grabbed by the police, black bagged and thrown in an unmarked van to be held and interrogated multiple times. They couldnt do more than that, though, because she was really untouchable despite being open about a lesbian because of her popularity on Twitter. In a lot of ways, it reminds me of Western nations before the 80s or so when things like Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell were more codified in law.

Edit: I think I got my terms wrong and the guy is called a Beard, not a Face. Like you’d wear a fake beard to hide your face or something, I think.