I was perplexed by the question. What’s the difference? They explained: “Should I tiptoe and watch my manners around you or be blunt? Flirtatious or chill? Brag about my sexual conquests or talk about our feelings? When you’re sad, do I hug you and buy you ice cream or do we go grab some beers? Should I wonder if we’ll ever hook up?”
I’m not sure if I’m more appalled or confused by this mindset. I thought everyone treated their friends the same regardless of their gender identity. Is this just a fringe case of toxic masculinity, or is this really how the average cis person sees the world?
I didn’t get the impression OP was necessarily offended, but they certainly thought about gender differently than their friend, and in the end the friend sounds like a misogynistic scumbag. You’re forgetting that OP has a lot of other information they didn’t or can’t provide to us, like body language, tone, etc. - so if OP is unsettled it might be for reasons we can’t see.
Not to say that there isn’t sometimes a thing that happens where people get overly sensitive or upset by something that isn’t a problem, but I don’t think that’s happening here.
Just to clarify, I meant the person that the person I replied to was replying to when I said OP, not like the OP of the thread.
sorry, I legit can’t make sense of this - the only “original poster” I can discern is the OP of this thread, Kit. Were you talking about them, or someone else?
Floofloof? The person grue replied to
ohhh, thank you - I think I get what you’re saying now :-)
Sorry I couldn’t figure out how to make that clearer to begin with
no worries at all, you made it clear later and that’s all that was needed (for me) 😁