• copygirl
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    Yes. Them’s the rules on Blåhaj Lemmy.

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      I mean, apparently so, but I was not operating under the assumption that “We don’t believe in gender, this is all roleplay” was the base state of the instance, and many others seem surprised by it too.

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        Three feet to your right is “trans women are roleplaying women”. You may not hold that view explicitly, but the rules around respecting identity in that instance exist for that reason. And that means accepting identities that are challenging, even if they are being used by shitty people.

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          It’s not about the person being shitty, it’s about the identity itself being absurd and contradictory to reality.

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            You missed the point of the comment you’re replying to. To a lot of people, garden-variety binary trans people are “absurd and contradictory to reality”. To even more people, nonbinary people are.

            Blahaj lemmy’s admins have decided that they will not draw a line, because they don’t want to be the arbiters of what is valid. That does mean some extreme cases don’t get decided the way you would, and that’s fine! Just block those cases.

            Whatever identity they have, I don’t care. The internet’s big enough for everyone. It’s not my problem, not my life, live and let live.

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              “Transphobes hate trans people because they don’t think trans people are real; therefore, in order to not be transphobic, you must admit reality doesn’t exist” isn’t very compelling.

              Most ordinary folk would opine that transphobia is bad precisely because trans folk do exist in reality and are valid.