I transitioned ages ago and I’m recently out of a long term relationship. I’ve been trying to get back into dating, but even when I specify “masc for masc” all of the gay guys I meet are too feminine for my taste. I’ve been feeling a bit doomed, even sometimes questioning if I should have transitioned in the first place because it would be so easy to find an ideal partner if I hadn’t, but the idea of being anyone but my true self is preposterous. Can any other guys relate to this? Any dating tips or specific dating app recommendations?
USA if it helps.
I’m straight so not exactly the same situation but I recommend that you don’t let it take too much of your mental energy and do things that make you happy in the meantime. If you keep looking the odds are that you’ll find someone eventually, just takes time.
Can relate to the idea that it would be easier not being trans. It makes dating a lot more complicated to navigate and I’ve struggled with the idea that being trans makes me less desirable and attractive. Doesn’t help that I’m really bad at picking up if someone’s flirting with me and feel guilty if I do think that and what if she’s just being friendly. Ultimately I realized that the right person isn’t gonna care that I’m trans and will love me for my full self.